{"id":53654,"date":"2019-04-05T16:56:33","date_gmt":"2019-04-05T16:56:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesageoak.com\/?p=53654"},"modified":"2020-11-11T09:43:55","modified_gmt":"2020-11-11T09:43:55","slug":"how-do-i-talk-to-mom-and-dad-about-assisted-living","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesageoak.com\/2019\/04\/05\/how-do-i-talk-to-mom-and-dad-about-assisted-living\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I Talk to Mom and Dad about Assisted Living?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Your parents worked so hard to give you a\ncomfortable, happy life growing up. They are the two people that cared for you\nand anticipated all your needs more than anyone else in your life. To think\nabout these two capable, loving, caring people being unable to care even for\nthemselves can sound strange. For loving children, it can be a heartrending\nrealization that their parents are growing old and are no longer able to do all\nthe things that everyone around took for granted. If so, the idea of moving\nyour parents to an assisted living facility has probably already occurred to\nyou. This itself can at first seem like an extreme step; an idea that the mind\nshies away from. So, ask yourself: Are you ready? Are your parents ready?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Is it time to have the talk about\nmoving to assisted care?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Firstly, you need to make a detailed\nassessment of the situation. Examine the practical aspects of your parents\u2019\nhome: Is it elder-friendly or can modifications be made to accommodate\nincreasing immobility? Are the bathrooms safe for them to use or is there a\ndanger of falls and accidents? Are there a lot of stairs and can a ramp or\nstair lift be installed to ease the situation? Also assess other factors such\nas their home&#8217;s distance from medical facilities should there be any kind of\nemergency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Assess the extent to which your parents now appear to need care. Are they still able to drive to wherever they need to go around Dallas, or do they need assistance? Is there any mental or physical infirmity that needs supervision or special care? Have you noted any rapid weight loss or mood changes? Have there been any recent episodes that convince you that your parents would be happier, healthier and better looked after in assisted living? Once you\u2019ve answered all these questions, you can make a clear and reasoned decision about your course of action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Are you convinced about this?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>This is important. If you plan to speak to\nyour parents about moving to assisted living, ensure that you yourself believe\nthis to be necessary. Whenever possible, make sure that your siblings are on\nboard, too. Rise above the whole stigma attached to assisted living and don\u2019t\nbe worried about what others in the family will say. Don\u2019t wonder about how\nyour friends seem to be managing with <em>their<\/em>\nelderly parents. Everyone has a different set of circumstances within which\nthey have to choose what is best \u2013 and this goes for you and your siblings as\nwell. In fact, and it may not come as a surprise, as per a 2009 report, most\nseniors who make the transition to assisted living end up liking it much better\nthan they expected, even going on to state that they wish they\u2019d done it\nsooner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So you have to make decisions based on the\nrealities of your own home and living conditions, your financial and time\nresources, and the assessment you make about the needs of your parents. Are you\nconvinced that your parents are better off in an environment where they are\nlooked after and helped with day to day chores, attention is always available\nand where living areas are adapted to senior living? Where there are friends to\nbe made and shared activities to enjoy? In that case, you are ready to have the\ntalk with mom or dad. So, here are the steps to ensure that you have made a\ndecision and that it is the right one for your set of circumstances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Do your research and become fully\ninformed.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019ve made your decision about assisted\nliving, you can then start to look at all your options based on where you live\nand the level of care your parents need. Take into account any special needs\nyour parents may have: mobility issues, medical conditions, need for hospital\nvisits and so on. Take into consideration the activities your parents enjoy\ndoing, the kind of friends they enjoy having, the environment in which they\nthrive. Shortlist a few places that cater to their needs and personalities,\nplaces where you feel they would be happy and comfortable. Look for pleasant\nenvirons, a good elder-to-carer ratio, welcoming communities, and places where\nthe elderly seem to be happy and loving this chapter of life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Choose the right time.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Take the time out for a proper, reasoned,\nheartfelt&nbsp; discussion where you tell your\nparents about the concerns you have and why their declining autonomy raises a\nneed for action. Don\u2019t make an offhand comment or a thinly asserted question\nlike it might be time we look into options, huh? Try not to have the discussion\nwhen there are many other people around; at an occasion such as a birthday or a\nholiday get-together. Pick a quiet moment when your parents are likely to be\nreceptive to a new idea. The idea of moving may need some time to get used to.\nOffer to take a break on the subject and then be sure to come back to it at the\nright time again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Honestly tell them about your apprehensions: a medical emergency in the middle of the night, a possible fall or other injury, increasing infirmity that makes them further unable to manage by themselves. And let it be a discussion, not a demand. Make it a point to listen, really listen to what they have to say. If they are shy about meeting new people, offer to help. If they are concerned about all of their things, be ready with solutions. Speak with our amazing staff members at&nbsp;972-908-9094 to get answers to questions that arise in their mind. Address concerns that they have about the whole idea and try to ease their apprehensions. They did this for you every step of the way as you grew older, now it is your turn. Be kind, be patient, but above all, be responsible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Make it a mutual decision with everyone on\nboard \u2013 one that works for everyone, including you. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your parents worked so hard to give you a comfortable, happy life growing up. They are the two people that cared for you and anticipated all your needs more than anyone else in your life. To think about these two capable, loving, caring people being unable to care even for themselves can sound strange. 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